tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post4998191397040182400..comments2023-08-28T00:40:57.948-07:00Comments on Single parenthood. Tales from the front-line...: Oh Sh.....ugar!Gappyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15086671907412626209noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-82088668814518365212010-07-12T09:58:27.102-07:002010-07-12T09:58:27.102-07:00My Mom tried a donation box when my Dad used words...My Mom tried a donation box when my Dad used words at us that she found particularly offensive (any beginning with the G**- prefix). We each got a quarter if she overheard him saying anything. This stopped when she realized one of my brothers was making Dad angry on purpose to earn money for a trip to play video games and buy candy.<br /><br />Swearing is def not the worst thing kids are ever going to hear/see. If this is the only damage we do as parents, we are pretty damn impressive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-41542490535114070442010-02-11T13:07:47.495-08:002010-02-11T13:07:47.495-08:00I have to admit to trying to avoid swearing in fro...I have to admit to trying to avoid swearing in front of my kids though not perfect! It was a shock when my kids started saying "bloody" this and "bloody" that as even though that's mild by adult standards it doesn't sound right coming from a child.<br /><br />My 6 y old daughter stopped using the "b" word as we call it when her little brother started using it. She now reports him for every use.<br /><br />I do find myself letting out the odd shit, bugger or fuck but try not to make it too loud if kids are around! They get exposed to the language in the streets etc but I'd rather they didn't start using those words themselves just yet..Lakes Single Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908716535401796186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-41346812572697420092010-02-03T11:47:28.436-08:002010-02-03T11:47:28.436-08:00Yes Amity, I think your approach is quite similar ...Yes Amity, I think your approach is quite similar to my own. <br /><br />Will change settings on the comments. I presume you just go into comment moderation and it's fairly self explanatory?Gappyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086671907412626209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-54197063363315702652010-02-03T11:09:22.593-08:002010-02-03T11:09:22.593-08:00I don't purposely swear in front of my childre...I don't purposely swear in front of my children but it does happen and I don't worry about it too much. Kids who never hear swearing at home are more likely to think it's the naughtiest thing ever and thrill in repeating it ad nauseum to annoy their parents. All things in moderation, right? ;-) <br /><br />Once they're a bit older, I wouldn't even mind if my children swore (in context and not AT anyone) at home but would explain to them that it's only for around family and at home because so many others disapprove. I find the shock and horror at swearing quite ridiculous and stuffy but they have to learn to get on with the people for whom this is a big fucking deal (whoops!) so I'll teach them when, where and with whom it is appropriate. <br /><br />P.S. - Can you turn on the 'Name/URL' option for comments? Thanks! <br /><br />Noble SavageDissident Doulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15103544648541997722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-17395394687301614832010-02-03T06:57:32.181-08:002010-02-03T06:57:32.181-08:00It's a bad example and we've both done it!...It's a bad example and we've both done it! Unfortunately, the first time little elf lisps "Oh fuck", we'll probably giggle like crazy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-10056141544412311312010-02-03T02:09:20.522-08:002010-02-03T02:09:20.522-08:00Thanks for the replies.
I can totally understand...Thanks for the replies. <br /><br />I can totally understand where you're coming from with the point you make about school, Modern Mother. As far as I'm aware my children have never used bad language in school, but if they did get into trouble for it, I would feel very responsible indeed.Gappyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086671907412626209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-81818408321886385742010-02-02T23:05:15.316-08:002010-02-02T23:05:15.316-08:00I don't -- mainly because it would probably ge...I don't -- mainly because it would probably get them in trouble at school. Funny about the garage.A Modern Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15632406403657444930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-71194191126637729592010-02-02T21:58:08.255-08:002010-02-02T21:58:08.255-08:00I tried really hard not to have a policy on it bec...I tried really hard not to have a policy on it because it was just one more thing I had to think about. (Christ like there's not enough already!)<br /><br />It's a bit disconcerting though when the 3-year-old yells "stupid fucking idiot driver!" every time he hears a car horn. <br /><br />I worry he's going to say it in front of our friend who works for DOCS. Then again, I presume she's heard and seen a lot worse.<br /><br />FloFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12508456394076082696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-55155763615224982982010-02-02T20:45:01.830-08:002010-02-02T20:45:01.830-08:00I don't like swearing in front of the kids. Bu...I don't like swearing in front of the kids. But my partner is Irish and so is her mother. I probably needn't say more, but just in case you haven't had the pleasure of an Irishwoman's company, 'fucking' is every other word in a sentence. <br /><br />What can one do?A Free Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01038930031019179647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1531169179205019503.post-48779453800794641792010-02-02T06:12:56.329-08:002010-02-02T06:12:56.329-08:00Crikey have you secretly visited my house, that is...Crikey have you secretly visited my house, that is, the "House of the Swearing Mother"?? You would think that smacking was more controversial but it seems not. Our gutter mouths muttering in the kitchen/drivers seat etc is more damaging than the hands that slap. Can't subscribe to that myself.<br /><br />I'm an educated woman whose parents are a bookie and a landlord so I have a wide cussing vocab to draw upon. And I bloody well do. I agree, its expressive and its pretty harmless as long as not directed at someone with venom. "Fuck it" when you burn the dinner doesn't come near "Fuck you" to someone's face does it?<br /><br />Are we so risk-averse now for our kids that we are going to pretend everyone talks like a CBeebies presenter in the grown up world? Its life, its learning. Its normal for fuck's sake.<br /><br />To those mummies and daddies who NEVER swear around their little darlings (and I've met plenty and name some of my closest friends in that group with their patronising comments & body language) all I can say is respecting different styles of parenting early on in your parenting life will make things a lot easier the day your precious ones make you scream "For Fuck's Sake" at the top of your voice.<br /><br />Excuse the rant, but its rare to find a fellow mother swearer and one who manages to express their views on it so well. Well done you.<br /><br />MD.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com